Get it off your chest, pluck it from her breast! at IDKE

The doctor’s hair! à

My hairs! à

When I was in highschool, & was bragging about a bruise I got playing lacrosse. The bruise was on my breast. A guy friend of mine resonding with:” the two most disgusting things a woman can have on her breast are brusies and hair.” I kinda freaked out inside. I was ashamed and scared that my body had betrayed me. The hair around my nipples was growing thicker and thickers.

A long long time passed and I graduated from college. I went to a women’s conference at Twin Oaks. There were so many naked women with all types of nipple hair, stomach hair, and chest hair. I wasn’t the hairiest one anymore. When I feel uncomfortable wbout my body hair, I remind myself of twin oaks and llt he hairy women  there! <3 h

Two and a half years sober and feeling sooooo much. Feeling my fears and my heart and stepping into leadership & power. And Self love. <3 xoxoxoxoxo

Being in my body means being in my power. Quitting shaving helped me stay away from sharp objects on my skin. Now I’m a hard-core pit pig and am grateful to be in safer, genderqueer spaces because I can be myself and rock a mic and a stage and embody a genderlessness that isn’t always accessible to me anywhere else. Thanks for reminding me of who I am and how important this work is for us.

Before having my child I was very skinny and fit. I gained a lot of weight in pregnancy. I also later developed fibromayalgia. I’s also always been envious of the more fit members of my <drag king> troup for being able to go shirtless in numbers thinking I couldn’t do that because of my size. Their confidence of me allowed me to finally be able to try it myself and I found acceptance and now have a better body image. M. Dizzi

Rosie

I too have hairs I struggle to love. I have hair on my chest. I have hair pretty much everywhere else as well, but it’s the chest hair that seems to symbolize my “excess hairgrowth.” Having beautifuuly smooth cleavage has been a center point of feminine sexyness for me, and when I discovered my chest hair I was crushed. For a long time I only wore high necked shirts and scarves. BuTooààà…Now I am learning to flaunt my chest hair!

I have been seeing two doctors at once, like an affair, I am doing it to both of them. I tell certain things to one and not the other. One knows I am gay and the other does not. All those years of feeling powerless at the doctors has had it’s toll. Krisitin

When I first came out my first girlfriend and I were making out and she said “what’s wrong with your tongue?” I knew I had a tongue that was tied but had always though it was cool. I would even look at it in mirrors and do tricks with it. After my first girlfriend commented in my tongue I becasme really insecure for about 15 years about kissing. It was only a year ago that I met someone and she and I have been kissing ever since. I love kissing now! J

I have a rare intersex condition and have never liked Dr.’s Dr.’s always want to poke, prod, and treat my like a science experiement. I have a form of tetragameic chimerism and have chromosomal and physical intersex characteristics. My body is physically a merge of male and female. I don’t identify as wither male or female, but I did choose to have a masctomy. I had a lot of complications and revisions. I have no sensation in my nipple, nut after having the surgery, I started to grow many fine hairs out of my nipples. I am unigue! <3

So ok, let’s talk  about hair & shame. I recently made a video for dan savage’s “It Gets Better” project, a lot of peeps <3’d the video, and left literally 100’s of sweet messages. But the one I remember word for word says, “who’s the old guy in the wig and what has he done with Kate Bornstein.” Ah, well. Bullies stay, we get better at dealing with them and we #stay alive. <3 Kate

Most of my life I’ve dealt with “grandma” hairs. Dark hairs under my chin that have bugged me. I’ve gone thr plucking and want to try waxing. It’s something that’s on my mind constantly. I’m always afraid people see them or are aware of them and in my mind are so much more appartent that they really are. MCH

• I’ve been feeling isolated and alone
• I remember that other people can feel the same way
• I tried to keep this in mind + reach out to other people to heal myself and to help other people

A single hair no more

I’ve always had a hate/hate relationship with my huge tits. All the women I have been with intimately have loved them. When I first started telling ppl how much I look forward to top surgery as a FTM so many woman have said, “ but what about your awesome boobs?” I worry that the people who are attracted to me now will not be attracted to me when I complete my transition.

Hairy Nipples and a Big Clit

What ever the case, embrace.

When I was 15 my boyfriend Michael broke up with me becsaue I was “too fat.” And I quote “I really do love you, but you’re not hot; you’re fat.”

10 years later, I’m a bear. And happy.

Fuck you Michael.

Hmmm… this project reminds me of the part in the story concerning my body and my feet,a nd the hypersexualization of black males… relating to the part of my story (there were many parts, LOL, but this speaks most directly, IMO)… there is another conception/mysoncecption that I did not understand. For the longest time, once I had learned that males have their own lubricant and realized that I am one of the few men who have no pre-ejaculartoy fluid. I spent quite some time worried about different partners and their opions on what my “condition” was. once I met the right person, she helped me understand that we are all different in many ways, and that is the true nature of beauty and aesticitics.

My shame about my body is layered with shame about being ashamed. I catch myself being mad at myself for being ‘fat” because I have a small belly- and then I automatically get even angrier at myself for having those feelings. I love fat on other people’s bodies but am critical of it on myself (and crittica of being crititical, of being crititical, or bring crititical…)